Friday, November 13, 2009

While we wait.. R-E-S-P-E-C-T; Find out what it means to me

RESPECT: verb (used with object) to hold in esteem or honor; to show regard or consideration for; to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with (dictionary.com)
Ryan was nominated by a classmate for the monthly Moral Focus Award at Queen's Grant Community School. A fellow first grade classmate nominated him, this is the quote from the nomination card.


"Ryan respects his peers by sharing with him"


Ryan's dad attended the award ceremony this morning and Ryan proudly wore his ribbon all day.


We are so proud that he exemplifies such admirable moral qualities!!!

Thursday, November 12, 2009

While we wait... Top 10 Adoption Books

Top 10 books for international adoption: I would love feedback on any of these books!!!

Amazon.com: A Listmania! list by Brenda K. Uekert
These books are the "best of the best" that will guide you toward a successful international adoption, including raising your child once home.

1. 10 Steps to Successful International Adoption: A Guided Workbook for Prospective Parents by Brenda K. Uekert
Used & New from: $15.25

2. Born in Our Hearts: Stories of Adoption by Filis Casey
Used & New from: $1.37

3. The Automatic Millionaire: A Powerful One-Step Plan to Live and Finish Rich by David Bach
Used & New from: $0.82

4. Talking with Young Children about Adoption by Mary Watkins
Used & New from: $5.20

5. Cross Cultural Adoption: How To Answer Questions from Family, Friends & Community by Amy Coughlin
Used & New from: $2.17

6. LifeBooks : Creating a Treasure for the Adopted Child by Beth O'Malley
Used & New from: $8.33

7. Raising Adopted Children, Revised Edition: Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent by Lois Ruskai Melina
Used & New from: $1.55

8. Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents by Deborah D. Gray
Used & New from: $8.00

9. Dim Sum, Bagels, and Grits: A Sourcebook for Multicultural Families by Myra Alperson
Used & New from: $0.06

10. Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge
Used & New from: $0.01

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

While we wait... International adoption Stats

Each year, the U.S. State Department releases a list of the top countries issuing visas to immigrant children coming to the U.S. Below is a list of the top 20 countries in 2008 and the number of visas issued. I hope Bulgaria makes the list in 2009.

Guatemala: 4,123

China 3,909

Russia 1,861

Ethiopia 1,725

South Korea 1,065

Vietnam 751

Ukraine 457

Kazakhstan 380

India 307

Colombia 306

Haiti 302

Philippines 291

Taiwan 267

Liberia 249

Nigeria 148

Mexico 103

Ghana 101

Kyrgyzstan 78

Poland 77

Thailand 59

*cited from www.adoptionlearningpartners.org

Friday, November 6, 2009

While we wait... Is there a light?

Well it seems all the news lately has been surrounded around the unknown in Bulgaria and turtle-like pace we are experiencing. Some may know, but we transferred into the Bulgaria program from a China program mid-stream in the dossier preparation. A good decision that I have never once regretted. Here is an excerpt from the Rumor Queen (china adopt talk) about the state of adoptions. Although both situations deal with unknown, Bulgarian officials should be commended for the desire to change and want to change. Both countries have communist roots, so it amazing that the MOJ can overcome these obstacles to try to move forward in the best interest of the children and families that desperately want these children. It just seems that Bulgaria wants to change and is making the effort to change and we have not been patient enough to witness the change, but I feel it is coming. I get no impression that Bulgarian officals are spiteful or anti-american, which is good. The article can be viewed with the link provided or you can take my word that things look better in Bulgaria than China.

http://chinaadopttalk.com/2009/11/06/quiet-2/

Thursday, November 5, 2009

While we wait.. A reason for delay??

Once again I am not the detective that discovered this information. I just thought it was great information and all the information does go in line with the information or agency presents to us. Although our agency tries to give us the warm fuzzy feelings that things are still on track, somewhere in the back of my mind I feel a long long long wait ahead. So I see more fingerprints and homestudy updates in the future :(.

Quote from Terry M. that I have edited for length
Beyond the delays of 4 years of slow-down and back-logged families.... and beyond the many new families, not only from the US, but from other countries things DO NOT move fast in Bulgaria. There are several things that ALWAYS slow down the process:

1. You know about summer slowdowns already, many companies simply shut down in Bulgaria for the month of August.

2. Holidays. Theirs government or ours (our Embassy) may be closed. Governmental processes may slow down or stop.

3. Elections. New Ministers, Mayors, Deputy Ministers... Even if they know who is going to get elected, even if nothing in the procedure is going to change. As the election approaches, paperwork always seems to slow down. After the election it always takes a couple months, at the very least, to get things going again.

4. Bulgarian culture. Most of the time Bulgarian social workers and Social Home Directors/staff will tell you the best possible outcome. This is cultural. To utter something out loud is to make it come true.... so one should never verbalize that the wait for children may be long because that would make it so. If you say the wait will be short, then that will be so.... supposedly.

5. Negative press. Anytime there is any kind of international negative press about Bulgarian orphanages, about the government, etc... things slow down, or stop.

6. New adoption procedures, laws, regulations, amendments, new or newly perceived Hague Convention issues.

7. Kids over 3, special needs, sibling groups. There have always been way more kids in Bulgarian orphanages in these groups that are waiting for families. They will always be a priority in placement. People who waited for healthy kids under 3 sometimes waited years, even in the pre-2004 days.

8. How popular the country is becoming. How many adoption agencies have new Bulgaria programs. How many new countries have "discovered" adoption from Bulgaria.

Monday, November 2, 2009

While we wait...Recent Developments

Apparently in the past week, a few things were put in place that may affect adoptions in Bulgaria. I am not the detective that takes credit for these discoveries, I am simply borrowing the info from the Bulgaria-Adopt yahoo group (link in side bar). I thought it was informative information. This is a summary of the recent activity.

There is now a longer wait before the birth certificate can be obtained and the judges are now requiring that birth parents be notified before the court papers can go into effect, even though they've already relinquished the child for adoption.

The US Embassy has also changed their policy for signing off on paper work. This paper work allows you to receive a court date. This delays the time between trip one and finalizing the adoption.

Before last week the time in between trip 1 and 2 was 3-5 months, now it may be 5-6 months. However, this may change as the agencies and MOJ try to work for the best interest of the children.

Saturday, October 31, 2009

While we wait... Marathon Halloween

Today we managed to squeeze several weeks of Halloween activities into 1 day (along with 1 soccer game)!! So here is a recap of the day

Pumpkin carving:


Making Pumpkin Pie


Trick or Treat with friends (we all know us parents LOVE to eat the Halloween candy after the kiddos go to bed; YUM YUM to the chocolaty goodness).


Earlier in the week we attended Trunk or Treat at Sam & Audrey's Preschool